LESSONS YOU WILL LEARN IN LIFE!

You Will Learn!
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As you grow up life is going to throw so many more obstacles in front of you.
Succeed and fail at jobs, fall down over and over and have to get back up. And you will always have to get back up and keep going.
You will go out into the world, and nothing will be fair. It will shock you. You will have to figure out which battles are worth fighting for and you will realize everything in your life will be a choice.
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You will have the choice to fight or not to fight.
You will have the choice to blend in or stand out.
There will be moments when you will need to be brave.
Moments when you will need to listen instead of speak, and moments when you will need to speak instead of listen- and you will need to know the difference.
You will need to figure out how to love yourself, others and the world- in that order.
Your heart will get blasted into a million pieces and, this will be one of those moments you will need to be brave, you will need to put it back together using yourself, others and the world- the very same things that shattered your heart to pieces in the first place.
You will have the choice to let your defeats, embarrassments and failures define and weaken you, or make you a more empathetic and courageous human being.
You will have to face a media shitstorm. Everywhere you look there will be someone to compare yourself to, something to live up to, some person making you feel inadequate, threatened or afraid.
And you will have to be smarter.
You will have to investigate for yourself, you will have to form your own opinions and ideals and it will seem impossible and lonely at times, but it’s a struggle worth embracing- and it may take a lifetime, so don’t ever surrender.
You will be disappointed by how the world is presented to you. You will need to be more than creative, you will need to be innovative and take what’s given to you and recreate it.
You will have to learn to seek- to really hunt for the good, and you will realize you have to be the good in the world, and you will have to figure out how.
You will have to follow through. You won’t always follow through or honor your word- and you will learn how detrimental that will be.
You will lose things- innocence, dignity, pride, friends, lovers, family members. Your parents will get older- their hair will turn grey, they will get sick, you will need to be there for them.
You will need to suck it up and be strong for others.
You will have to prioritize your time and energy.
You will have to determine what and who is important.
You will have to be dependable for the people you love.
You will need to stop thinking of only yourself.
You will need to take responsibility.
You will need to care. You will need to connect.
You will need to be able to recognize those who are toxic to your well being and you will need to learn to forgive them and let them go- because, you will learn, that sometimes you too, are toxic and worthy of being forgiven and let go.
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You will feel sad. There will be some days where you won’t want to get out of bed and try. But there will also be some days where you can’t sleep because you are so excited about something, there will be moments when life will feel perfect.
You will learn to remember the good days on the bad days and you will get out of bed and keep trying.
You will learn how complex you are.
You will surprise yourself. You will disappoint yourself.
You will be proud of yourself. You will hate yourself. You will love yourself.
You will realize others are as complex as you are.
You will learn not to fear different people, or opinions, or lifestyles.
You will learn to embrace everything foreign to you with open arms.
You will learn to be tolerant. You will become more interested in people, more forgiving, and more loving because of this.
You will learn that people in power are sometimes cruel. There will be people who have authority over you who will abuse you. You will have to learn to stand up for yourself.
You will have to remind yourself that you are powerful too, even if they don’t think you are.
You will learn how to help others see their own power- you will learn that breaking others down is a sign of weakness, not strength. You will learn how to be a leader and not a dictator.
You will learn to laugh. Laughter will be your saving grace, and you will realize it’s the only weapon you will need in any battle. You will learn that people who can laugh at themselves always win.
You will learn it’s worth it to pay attention to everything and everyone, even though everything you see, experience or encounter will most likely leave you completely bewildered and confused. Be conscious. Don’t ignore things just because it’s easier.
You will find soul mates. People who, in a crowded room, you can make eye contact with and just know what they are thinking. You will know who these people are because they will be around for all of it, they will endure your messy life with you. This doesn’t mean they will be physically with you all the time. Your soul mates will be traveling along on their own path, fighting their own journey, but along the way you both will be each others teachers and safety net. They will let you go out into the world and be there in some form when you come back completely fucked up from whatever happened to you out there. You will exchange stories with them. They will challenge you, they will see the best in you, they will bring out the best. They will remind you of all your strengths when you are downtrodden and they will call you out when you are being an idiot. They will protect you, sometimes from yourself. You will learn that being someone else’s soul mate is even better than having one.
You will love and lose. And love and lose. And love and lose. Each love will be different, and awesome, and horrifying. And you will learn to always be brave enough and willing to love again. And when you find that love you can’t live without, you will learn to fight for it every single day.
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But most of all, you will learn to keep learning and re-learning.
You will learn that your mistakes make you a good teacher, a more empathetic member of humanity.
You will learn that throughout the different stages of your life you will make new mistakes, and that you will be ever evolving and in flux.
And you will hopefully learn to make peace with this and accept your own humanness. And I hope you will, at the end of it all, have enjoyed being alive.
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Are you a “Boss” or a “Leader?”

I believe there’s a big difference between being a “Boss” and a “Leader.”

You’ll hear people call themselves “the boss” but very rarely does anyone call themselves “the leader.”

To me, declaring yourself “the boss” is similar to screaming “I’M IMPORTANT” out the window of your apartment to random passerbyers on the street.

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Someone who is capable and focused on climbing the ladder, someone who works hard, mainly for themselves and who believes that the people underneath them owe them their time and hard work.

Leaders seem to possess a sense of keen self awareness that allows them to be a quieter type of person. Someone focused on a bigger goal which is bigger than them, and someone who views the people working for them as valuable assets, a team of dedicated individuals whom without, their dream or company would be unmanageable.

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The difference is one way of thinking is simple and easy and the other way is harder and much more work. And this is why: Leaders know their people. People are complex; they aren’t just what is listed on a resume, or recommended by a professional reference.

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People have dreams, passions, skills, talents, they grow, they change, they need, they want.

Leaders not only understand this, but they take the time to really understand the people on their team- discover who they are, which is a lot of hard work. It involves a lot of asking, and a lot of listening.

Leaders know that taking the time to devote to understanding the other people they are working with is important because life is not just work.

Leaders see the “big picture.” The big picture always involves more than just a single person. The big picture is that life is not just your oneself, or your own personal work. The big picture is life- which includes many other people. Life is family, its relationships, friendships, love, its exploration, its experiences, it’s a roller coaster, and work is just a part of it. A leader understands that each person they are accountable for is living their own unique, complex life- full of their own unique struggles, passions, disappointments, successes and hopes. This is important because when you lose sight of the big picture you end up shrinking your world when in actuality you want to expand.

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Leaders lead by example. Leading by example doesn’t mean that every day at work you are flawless, it means that every day you are at work you are honest, you try your best, you are sincere, and never give up. A good leader can have a bad day, but won’t let those bad days get them down in the long haul, they never lose hope. A good leader admits mistakes, takes accountability, honors their word, and respects others.

Respect is something that bosses seem to believe their employees owe them instantly, just based off some hierarchy put in place to create a sense of structure. But leaders know that respect is not only a two way street and something that every person is owed, but also something that is earned and can be lost. Leaders don’t talk down, or shut down people working with them- they don’t use their authority to belittle others to build themselves up. They don’t see value in silencing people they may disagree with. Because the rare, intelligent, and talented people won’t follow a leader who breaks them down or disrespects them forever. People of value won’t stick around and let you beat them down, they will leave. And true leaders know that no one can accomplish anything alone.

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Leaders know how to communicate. They can do this because they know their people, they see the big picture, they respect others and therefore they can easily communicate their thoughts and feelings to others who are looking to them for answers or advice. They don’t manipulate. They can explain things clearly. They know how to actively listen, they can make tough decisions, they can handle problems or concerns with sensitivity and awareness. They are direct, they are positive, they are firm and they are never all-knowing. They are thoughtful and they are honest when speaking to others.

  1. Leaders have imagination and can laugh.
  2. Leaders have swept the floor, they aren’t above anything.
  3. Leaders say thank you.
  4. Leaders are FAIR.
  5. Leaders reward hard work.
  6. Leaders take action.
  7. Leaders appreciate.
  8. Leaders observe and learn.
  9. Leaders can be anyone and everyone.

SO ALL OF YOU READING THIS WHICH SIDE ARE YOU?

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BE A LEADER

 

Via Jennifer Marie Donahue