Three things I want you to learn how to say


There are three things I want you to learn how to say.

“I love you”
and don’t just say it as an empty phrase,
say it with feeling,
say it to every person who comes to mind when you think of those three little words.
I know it’s scary,
I know it’s difficult,
but open yourself up
and shout it.
Don’t mumble,
don’t say it under your breath,
when you love someone,
whether platonically or romantically,
it deserves to be shouted from every rooftop.

There will be some people in your life
that come in and just wreck everything,
they mess up your plans,
they hurt you,
and make you feel less than what you are,
so please learn how to say goodbye to them.
But I also want you to learn how to say goodbye
to even the people you want to stay.
not everyone stays,
and saying goodbye is like setting someone free,
and it won’t always come easy,
and it won’t always come without heartbreak,
but not everyone stays,
and it will do you a world of good to learn how to tell them

“I am worth it.”
there will be waves of sorrow in your life,
and you will feel as if you were the sand that the tide carries away,
you will feel as if it carries away your worth
it will feel like you are the left over rubble of a building
that had been burned down,
and you will feel less,
but please learn to say these words.
say them in the mirror when you have just woken up,
say them when your lover turns their back on you,
say them when you are opening up the refrigerator
sing them,
yell them,
whisper them,
and please, believe them.
You are more than sand that can just be washed away,
and you are more than just a few pieces of broken cement,
you are worth it.





You are constantly looking outside yourself to solve your problems.Where ever you go your problem will follow you.Even if ,one fine day, miraculously all your current problems are wiped out,you will again find yourself surrounded by similar problems -soon.That’s because of your mind.

Your main problem is “disquiet”,born of comparison.Comparison leading to expectation.Expectation leading to dissatisfaction.

So, essentially, your problems are not outside.They’re inside .When odour is inside you, you will encounter it every where you go.

You may constantly keep changing your neighbourhoods,your cities,your countries.Only the sights will change but the odour will remain.It will keep resurfacing and appear overpowering.

So merely altering one sensory input alone will not do.

In the mean time your life will keep scudding past you.

It may make more sense to look within.At yourself.Look inside and see how you’re interpreting reality around you.How are you visualising you future?

What kind of possibilities of the future are you dwelling upon?Do they appear foreboding?

Are they causing you discomfort?Are your feelings and emotions disturbed by your thought process?

Slow down a little in life.




Slow down a little in life.

Slow down your pace ,slow down your work.

One thing at a time.Whatever you do let it be slow and deliberate.

Let it be enjoyable for you.

Let one or two things pass by if things are going too fast for you.

Automatically you’ll find things slowing down to your pace of things.

Work coming to you will slow down.its a scientific fact that rushing around in a constant hurry speeds up your biological clock as well,bringing about early ageing effects.

The slow, steady ,strong biblical life is most certainly a boon for “type A’s”,who are compellingly attached to hyper activity.

It’s a great idea to calm down ,slow down during the day by coming back “into” yourself many times.

All that you need to do is be in contact with your physical body for a few minutes consciously,focus on your breath a few minutes ,listen into the silent stillness residing within.

It’s an unusually effective “pick me up” in your work life as well.

Most of all keep smilin

Happiness is the firewood for success.



Then there are days when the clouds appear to loom darker than the sun ,there are times when its not possible to smile ..but then those are the very times you can learn to force a smile through.

That’s all it takes sometimes for the sun to emerge,and the cheer light up the gloom.Sunny days are always welcome yet whats more welcome is the strength to generate the brightness which seemingly isn’t there on the horizon.

Keep smiling because it takes fewer muscles to do so than to frown .More importantly its good to be happy for your solution to roll out quicker for your problem .Like someone said success doesn’t generate happiness,its the other way around.Happiness is the firewood for success.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”


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How often do you get inspired to follow a course of action and yet drop it?


Because you’re sceptical,because you’re not sure you’ll meet success in the end,because you might feel let down.However time and time again it is reiterated that action only begets success.

if you could just give it a try,an inch at a time.You might astound yourself with the success that hurries over to you .The only catch is that you need to outgrow your current, limited reality.

There was this fisherman who kept flinging back huge trout into the lake after reeling them in,and only keeping small sardine sized fingerlings in catch.His companion asked in consternation,”why do you do that”?”Oh I have a small frying pan”,was the quick reply .

That’s perhaps a measure of the estimate we have of our capabilities.We’ve got to make more room in our mind for possibilities that appear remote.

Some times you are two feet from the goldmine and you stop digging after going hundreds of feet under.

The amusing part is that this continues to happen in real life.

Even after we hear good advice ad nauseum!!What does it indicate?Are we at the mercy of fate?destiny?kismet?

One can go on enquiring and coming up with consoling “plausibilities”.Yet the fun begins,the fruition begins,the harvesting begins when you pause for a moment before giving up and walking away from the heap of toil.

You pause and ask yourself in that moment ,that ‘womb of decision-making” whether there is still an extra mile that you could traverse.

Thank heavens for the stamina of conviction Edison possessed otherwise, for sure candlelight dinners wouldn’t have been a novelty!

So what do you do? Resume.Get up and get going.Now


Don’t ask why but rather what.



Don’t ask why but rather what.

Too often when we are faced with challenges or trials we ask why this happened to me or why now.

 These are natural responses but the truth is, to develop inner strength, you need to be able to ask the question what.

What can I learn from this experience?

What can I do to make it better?

What can I do for someone else?

What do I need to do get back on my feet?

These are not easy questions to answer when things are going good so asking them when you are being challenged or in the midst of trial is even more difficult.

However, having the ability to ask and answer these types of questions will help you develop inner strength.